Kinship "Foster" Carers
 A place for those who care
 
Here we hope to put helpful tips and information for you that might make things a bit more straightforward when dealing with officialdom
 
 
Message from Paula.......
I have been hearing of carers who have been having problems with trips to A&E, hospital appointments and GP's etc. in regard to Parental Responsibility and the different Orders.

Many times you are asked the same questions and have to go through the trauma of the circumstances in which the child has come to you. These Orders are questioned by the professionals who have no idea what they are talking about.

THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE!

Keep a folder with the following enclosed.

  Copy of the Order you have on the child/children – Special Guardianship Order or Residence Order, etc.

  A print out of the rules under which the Order is made – These are available from us on the website or Family Rights Group, etc.

  A full history of why the child was placed; written in clear, bullet pointed sections, including:-

        Why the child was removed – Neglect, Sexual Abuse, Death of a Parent, etc.
        When the child was placed with you
        How much contact the child has with parents
        A list of siblings and where they are at present
        A name of your Social Worker – if you still have one

  A full history of the child's health problems in clear, bullet pointed sections including:

         Whether the parents have any medical history themselves – Drug, Alcohol Abuse, Mental Health, etc.
         Whether the child was born addicted to any substance
         Any full diagnosis for the child, Foetal Alcohol Sydrome, Autism etc.
         Any possible diagnosis for the child that is being investigated at the moment

  List ALL the professionals involved with the child's care; Paediatricians, Dietician, Social Worker, CAMHS, etc – include contact details
       when known.

  When a professional comes to you for information, all you need to do is hand over the folder.
       It is not acceptable for you to have to repeat yourself in times of crisis over and over again.
       Give them the folder and inform them that everything they need is in there.
       Tell them if you are in a crowded ward or surgery that you WILL NOT discuss your child's case in public.
       If they have any questions about the Order after reading the information, tell them to call the duty Social Workers or their own legal
       department.

  This can also be adapted for children on a Care Order; make sure you list the Social Workers involved and the telephone number for
       the Duty Team. Make sure you also enclose any specific letters giving you permission to obtain treatment.

  Most of all BE FIRM!
       Your energy is needed for the child, not the doctor standing there too lazy to read the nursing notes.

  Remember to just tell them:
       “Everything you need to know about my child is here for you to read, take a moment to read it before asking me to clarify anything
       afterwards, in a private room, unless it relates to what has bought us here today – i.e. broken arm, soldier stuffed up left nostril!”